Coffee House

1.Whether it's the best of times or the worst of times, it's the only time we've got.

2.Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

3.Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates.The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become.

Sunday, January 07, 2007

Bombay

I visited Bombay last month. I visited the city after many years. And earlier, every time I was there, I was with family. I was a kid and I used to be shielded from the realities of Bombay. This time, I was really shocked. I landed in Bombay around 8pm or 9pm on the twelfth of December. We had to take a train to Dahod (Gujarat) at Borivali at around 11pm.

I was shocked when I saw traffic jams on a Tuesday night at 11pm. I saw a local train entering the Borivali station full of people, with absolutely no room to spare. There were people literally hanging from the train, holding on to a pole at the entrance of with only one leg on the train. There were even people on top of the train because there was no more room inside. This was at 11pm! This city really never sleeps. I thought now here's a city that means business. All it cares about is money. Not that it's bad. After all, it is the desire for money that drives people to work harder. (It may also give rise to organised crime, but that also requires a perverse sense of right and wrong.) I thought that here's a city that doesn't care about a person's antecedents, only whether or not that person performs.

My rosy picture was shattered when I read a hindi cloth banner outside the borivali station. It said:
"मन्दिर वहीं। मस्जिद नहीं। बाबरी कही नहीं।"
My first reaction was to say "Shit! Those assholes." I found it a little hard to believe that even here, people who work until late at night to just feed themselves, still have time to think about mandir and masjid! I guess the people who actually think about mandir and masjid here, aren't the people who work hard to earn a living. They aren't the true Mumbaikars. They certainly aren't the ones who made Bombay what she is today. They are the ones who are sabotaging her, the Bal Thakerays and VHP wallahs.

I and my friends returned to Bombay from Dahod on the 14th. We visited Bandstand, a posh Bandra locality and drank coffee at seaside cafe, right next to Searock Hotel. We walked along the children's park. The apartments there must be very expensive. The only things between the balconies of the flats there and the ocean was one broad road and a beautiful green park for kids. What hit me here was seeing very rich flats and abject poverty side by side. I hadn't seen that much before - not in Bangalore and certainly not in Austin and it was certainly discomfiting. I felt like I hadn't even really experienced a whole different world out there.

We took a taxi to the airport there. We struck a conversation with the cab driver. He had come to Bombay from Bihar, looking for opportunities, hoping to live comfortably. He first took a job of a mechanic and then after a few years became a cab driver. I had heard of the hardships that migrant workers had to face in Bombay, so I asked him which place he prefered, Bihar or Bombay?.He was clearly shocked by my question. "आपको क्या लगता है? मुझे भूख पसन्द है या दो वक़्त का खाना?" (Do you think I like hunger?) In Bihar, the equations of survival depend on variables like caste and proximity to powerful people. In Bombay, you can survive if you work hard. It's a controllable variable. This taxicab driver worked hard for many years and has been able to feed his family.

I left Bombay with a sense of awe. A city of great diversity. A city of hope for migrant workers. A city that never sleeps. Packed trains return to suburbs past midnight and just a couple of hours later, laughter clubs come alive in Jogger's park. That's Bombay.

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Tuesday, January 02, 2007

Thought for the day

A cloud does not know why it moves in just such a direction and at such a speed, it feels an impulsion....this is the place to go now.But the sky knows the reason and the patterns behind all clouds, and you will know, too, when you lift yourself high enough to see beyond horizons..

- from "Illusions, The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah"

Thursday, December 07, 2006

Golf ball, Pebble, Sand and a cup of coffee

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 Hours in a day are not enough, remember the sugar jar . . . and the coffee.



A professor stood before his Philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty sugar jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.


The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.


The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes."


The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand.


The students laughed. "Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. "The golf balls are the important things - your God, family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions - things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.


"The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. "The sand is everything else--the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. "The same goes for life. "If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. "Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.


Play with your children. "Take time to get medical checkups. "Take your partner out to dinner. "There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. "Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. "Set your priorities. "The rest is just sand."


One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. "It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a cup of coffee with a friend."

Friday, December 01, 2006

EARTH BOUND - Land Water People

There is an exhibition of black and white photographs celebrating Land, Water and People presented by German Agro Action (GAA - Deutsche Welthungerhilfe) in collaboration with JackfruitResearch and Design (Bangalore). The travelling show brings to an urban audience for the first time an experience of GAA's presence in rural India, and its philosophies and accomplishments as an agrarian funding organisation working with Indian NGO partners. The images, augmented by text and graphics, narrate diverse stories of change and development captured through case-studies by photographer Clare Arni in developmental projects in the states of Karnataka, Andhra Pradesh,Orissa, Jharkhand, West Bengal and Rajasthan. The exhibition traces the problems faced and progress achieved in the broad areas of poverty alleviation and food security through an integrated approach under the 'Geographically Based Programme India' supported by the EU.
Dates: On view from December 2 to 10, 2006
Time:9.00 a.m. to 6.30 p.m.
Venue: Max Mueller Bhavan
After the showing in Bangalore, the exhibition will travel to other Indian cities:
The State Gallery of Art, Hyderabad - December 16 - 24, 2006
Palm CourtGallery, India Habitat Centre,
New Delhi - January 1 - 7, 2007
Seagull Arts and Media Resource Centre, Kolkata - February 1 - 7, 2007
All are welcome! Do come and view the exhibition.

Sunday, May 14, 2006

It doesn't concern me. (Variant 2)

What do I care? It doesn't concern me. I am a busy person. I have better things to do. I have a wife and kids. My boss would be wild. I don't have the time. There's no point anyway. Nothing will happen.

How many excuses have you tried?

Angry at the government about some particular issue? Mad about Arjun Singh's reservation rhetoric? You know what? It does concern you. You are not a student? Then it concerns you kids. You don't have kids? Well, you will some day.

First They Came for the Jews

First they came for the Jews
and I did not speak out
because I was not a Jew.
Then they came for the Communists
and I did not speak out
because I was not a Communist.
Then they came for the trade unionists
and I did not speak out
because I was not a trade unionist.
Then they came for me
and there was no one left
to speak out for me.

- Pastor Martin Niemöller

You think it doesn't concern you? Hell, it does!

It doesn't concern me. (Variant 1)

"It doesn't concern me."

How shameless can you be? Jessica Lall was murdered in full view of so many potential eye-witnesses. Yet, her murderer is not convicted. I don't understand how Shayan, the key eye-witness had the nerve to say,

"I have no suggestions or comments. It does not concern me. It happened seven years ago and I have moved on. My life has moved on. I've never looked back, so thank you."

It does not concern you?! I'm surprised the TV channels that reported this quote didn't express any shock. What does he mean, "seven years ago"? That's all the more reason to testify. As they say, justice delayed is justice denied.

Monday, May 08, 2006

Clarity



Every man has a history and it is this history, which supports/defines a character of a human being. Learning life’s ways is a very slow process and we accumulate a lot of knowledge about the world as we grow. This process forms some basic beliefs in us, which act as the network of our interaction. Relationship, which is defined by human being, is just in conformance with these beliefs. With every new relationship some of our basic beliefs are questioned. Though in relationship beliefs are exclusive sometimes they do confront. What should happen then? Should we change our beliefs? or adaptation is best way of survival? In both cases are we not deforming our own character? If both have to retain originality how can a truce established? Is it permanent? How long will that last? When it does blow out disproportionately does that relationship snap? Is there any way it can survive? Or changing role of relationship is correct way of surviving it?

She says, “History is the fiction we invent to persuade ourselves that events are knowable and that life has order and direction. That's why events are always reinterpreted when values change. We need new versions of history to allow for our current prejudices.” She also says, “I think too much and feel too little”, is that right?

I ask her what is clarity? Is that just an illusion? For which she says…

You see me
In ways few dare
And I reveal to you
Everything
Sometimes things
I don't want to see

You force me
To put into words
The thoughts of a man
The feelings of a child
The actions of one
Who is too scared
To speak

You read me
An open book am I
Yet I'll try
Every means possible
To keep you from
Turning the pages

I will do anything
To protect myself
No matter how immature
Or insincere
I cannot risk exposure
Some things are best not heard
Or seen

I fool myself
But never you
I'm trying too hard
To avoid the truth
With petty actions
And nonsense

You see me
Alone
Confused
Naked

You see everything I am
And all that I am not

Tuesday, May 02, 2006

So many blogs, so few posts

I see so many blogs around (including my posts on this blog and on mine) and I think - why. Why so many blogs? Rather, why are so many of them so empty? They have very few posts, if at all. No, it's not because it's cool to have a blog. I figure it's because everyone has something to say. Everyone wants to be heard. They just don't know how to express it, and to whom. Some people use poetry, which I think is quite effective. Others use plain ol' prose but just don't feel satisfied. As for me, I'm certainly not a poet with words, so I'd much rather use someone else's (here, Javed Akhtar's) poetry if it fits and says what I want to say. Poem or song of the moment: जिंदगी, आ रहा हूँ मैं। (मशाल)